I’m a three dollar hooker.
It’s sad. I always thought I would do more with my life. Write a book? Travel to Scotland? Balance a checkbook?
Funny, but “sell my body for slightly less than the cost of two king-size Snickers bars” was never very high on the list.
Still, a girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do.
After all, the Bean refuses to buy condoms.
It’s not that he has anything against them—
Oh, who am I kidding? The Bean hates condoms – he just never comes right out and says it. To butcher a quote from Grey’s Anatomy: There is a land called Passive Aggressiva… and The Bean is their king.
What can I say? My husband is a prude when it comes to buying condoms, and I can’t say that I blame him. We’re both kind of prudes when it comes to buying birth control. The problem is, every time we get down to business (It’s Business Time!), he is accompanied by several million eagerly swimming little non-prudes.
With both of us hating to buy condoms, this is kind of a problem. I’d go on the pill, but the pill seems to be completely ineffective on my fertility.
So, what’s a fertile girl to do? Unfortunately for me, I seem to have all the self control of a rabbit in heat where my husband is concerned. Despite my better intentions, the same thing happens every time.
The kids are asleep, and I feel that familiar rub on my side….
I turn to him…..
Many short-breathed moments later, I gasp out, “Babe, we need, to uh… we need.. you know…”
And with that, my normally brilliant husband suddenly develops all the mental acuity of a half-dead houseplant.
“Huh?”
“We need to, you know… We can’t get pregnant…”
“Huh?”
“We need protection….”
“Mmmrphrmph…” He makes a noncommittal noise and tries to distract me.
Apparently he forgets how much I hate being pregnant. I am not that easily distracted.
“We need to do something about it!” I bite out, frustrated in more ways than one.
“Like what?”
Like what? SERIOUSLY? I’m supposed to believe this sudden onset of confusion from the man that carries a 4.0 in his university classes while juggling two jobs, a wife, and two kids? Yeah. Not buying it.
“REALLY, Bean? Do I have to spell it out for you? PRO-TEC-TION.” I bite out the syllables.
“Why can’t we just do what we normally do? It’s worked for us so far…”
“Who’s to say we just haven’t been lucky? Huh?”
He evades the question by trying to distract me yet again, and this time nearly succeeds. I surface like a drowning swimmer, clinging to my last remaining shred of self control.
“No, BEAN! You know what you have to do – did you pick any of them up?”
The Bean has been under long-standing orders to buy some condoms from his school. The school offers them ridiculously cheap, but you need a student ID to take advantage of the offer. He has one. I don’t.
Besides, we’ve been married three years and we have two kids. Maybe it’s time for me to pass the birth-control reins onto someone else.
Moreover, I think I offered him a pretty good deal. “Six months,” I told him. “Six months of you taking point and then I’ll take over all the embarrassing purchases.” The Bean agreed. Six months vs. a lifetime? That seemed reasonable.
And yet….
“No, I haven’t had a chance to get them yet…..” He tries to distract me yet again, but this time I slap his hand away.
“I’m gonna end up pregnant,” I warn.
“You won’t get pregnant,” he says soothingly.
I am not soothed.
I give a disbelieving snort and push him away. “Sorry. No babies. This shop is closed.” I know there are other ways of taking care of our “dilemma” but as far as I can tell, if I don’t take a hard stance, he’ll never learn anything.
I roll over on my side and face the wall, frustrated. The problem with taking a hard stance is that I’m not really sure who I am punishing.
Thirty seconds go by, but it feels more like thirty minutes.
“Fine.” He heaves a heavy, woe-is-me sigh. “I’ll pick some up tomorrow.” His hand touches my waist.
I look over my shoulder with a grin before pouncing on him.
The next day, when I text him, “SO??? Did you get them???” I receive vague excuses as to why he hasn’t had a chance to stop by. The line was too long. He was late to work. A giant herd of unicorns stampeded through the hallway and blocked the entrance.
Don’t get me wrong – I love my kids. I just don’t need thirty of them.
It didn’t seem fair that I had to be the adult in the situation. It takes two to tango, right? Shouldn’t it take two to wander up to complete strangers and ask them for sperm-blockading devices?
On the other hand, it was obvious we weren’t getting any closer to that goal, and who needs to live in a constant state of worry each month?
So I decided to take matters into my own hands. I came up with a plan and I put it in motion.
I bought a bunch of condoms.
I stocked them in “the drawer”.
And if the Bean wants to use any of my condoms instead of the much-cheaper condoms he can pick up any time…. Well, then he has to pay a premium.
Three dollars worth of premium.
I mean, come on. I’m a working mother with two kids. I don’t have the time or the energy to be worth $5 of premium.
And you know what? So far, the system seems to be working pretty well.
He no longer has to try to summon the courage up to ask a complete stranger for a big box of condoms.
And me? I no longer resent him for not going to the store. In fact, I actively discourage it. After all, it may only be $3, but it adds up.
So, yeah. There you go. Me love you long time.
But apparently only three bucks worth of long time. If you want some of that five-dollah lovin’, you’ve got to go to the ritzy side of town.
